Hi, Richard!  Awhile ago you wrote in a message to Ardith Hinton:   
      
   RW>  Reminds me of a story, my own jh band days.  GUy   
   RW>  sitting next to me in the trumpet section   
      
      
             In the second or third row, I would imagine... meaning the conductor   
   couldn't easily see what your friend was doing with his feet.   
      
      
      
   RW>  used to reach out an nudge me with his foot when   
   RW>  conductor cut of a formatta (spelling)   
      
      
             Fermata....  :-)   
      
      
      
   RW>  and we performed concerts in the jh gymnasium,   
   RW>  audience in the bleachers.   
      
   RW>  Band director's wife was on an upper tier and   
   RW>  didn't relate the cut off signals with my neighbor   
   RW>  nudging me with his left foot.  sO she reports my   
   RW>  neighbor "harassing" me during the concert.   
      
                         [...]   
      
   RW>  BD is a big loud guy and does the red faced rage   
   RW>  bit quite well.   
      
      
             In the past it was not uncommon, especially at junior high level.  I   
   soon discovered as the first female band teacher in xxx community that some of   
   my students didn't take me seriously unless I lowered my annoyance threshold &   
   left them in no doubt about where they stood.  If & when they had been with me   
   for a year or two I could relax & open up a bit, as could they... [grin].   
      
      
      
   RW>  Band director hears my explanation and apologizes   
   RW>  to the fellow, in front of the entire band.   
      
      
             Although he & his wife may have judged this situation too hastily, I   
   think it's to his credit that he recognized his error & made his apology where   
   the other band members could hear it.  A great lesson for all concerned.  :-))   
      
      
      
      
   --- timEd/386 1.10.y2k+   
    * Origin: Wits' End, Vancouver CANADA (1:153/716)