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   I've been enbjoying listening to lost '70s music on accuradio of late.   
      
   I just realized today that there was a LOT of love songs, exalting the    
   conceptsd of true love, & downplaying the sexual & short-term aspects.   
      
   I can omly imaginethisr was society's response to the giant flesh fest that   
   was the Free Love era (ended in '71 or '72 or thereabouts, did it? I missed it   
   all, as I was born in '67)   
      
   It's nice, but the songs are backwards or today, especially this one:   
   https://www.songfacts.com/facts/the-osmonds/love-me-for-a-reason   
      
   He was asking her to quit playing 'games' & to love him ytruly,. for the long    
   term, for love aolone, not just the short-term games.   
      
   This oneresonated, as my last 3 girlfriends, beforee getting married, I could    
   have sung thisd to then, word for word.   
      
   I've noticed that today, women tend to want to only 'play' for short term non-   
   relationships, but now it's the men who want to commit & receive one in return    
   -- makes for many brokenhearts, as I suppose it did when it was the other way    
   around.   
      
   This seems to be the trend now, for young & 'older' women.   
      
   Has it sdwitched before like this?  Was there another time that the music &    
   lyrics encouraged women to be players?   
      
   I know in Shakespeare's time, the lyrics(poetry) of the time extolled    
   unrequited love (the man loving the woman totally & as if committed, while   
   she  held off & was wooed by others); I think this is still a theme in some   
   'Chick  Lit' novels. . .   
      
   Sucks that men & womemn can't ever get onthe sdame page -- even our hormones    
   are off kilter -- a big prank buy God? We reach our sexual peak at 18; they    
   reach it at around 30! Then you got men wanting younger women *LOL*   
      
   I get it -- it's funny, but it's tough, too. . .   
      
   The smart 18 year olds who want to 'play' seek out the cougars & they match   
   up  nicely, but if they marry, it often won't last, unless both are   
   exceptionally  aware of the patterns to come.   
      
   Women tend to care what their girlfriends think, & guys likewise for their    
   bros.   
      
   Women hate being the "older" one in a relationship, after about 25 -- I've   
   even known of some who were all bothereed by a difference of just days!   
      
   I dated women 14 years older than me for a time -- as they were just more    
   mature & had something intelligent to say when we weren't naked.  (Don't get   
   me wrong -- naked time is fun, too; with or without conversation)   
      
   But to a pers9on, t hey were concerned about me bveing younger! (not   
   concerned  about my disability & health problems at all; in fact5, tyhe   
   oposite, tyhey  looked forward to assisting me in any ways they could (I turn   
   down that sort of attitude, as I know it'll soon enough tuyrn into "I'm not a   
   fleeping nurse! I  wabnt to be your psartner, not your caregiver!" & I'm good   
   with that -- I  wanted a partner/wife, not a nurse or someone likewise overly   
   dependent.   
      
   Tough going for the guys dating today & the most popular music(lyrics) isn't    
   helping the situation for any age group's music.   
      
   A serious guy's best bet, IMO, is to get into country (to bad it's all    
   Rockabilly now) & hang out at western-themed bars & get a big ol' cowgirl who    
   is totally traditional.   
      
   To ALL: What;'s been your experience with changing mores relating to dating &    
   relationships? & what are your thoughts on the subject, including advice for    
   any young'uns reading this echo?   
      
   I'm soon going to begin a campaign locally here to try to get people onto Fido    
   & BBSing. . . 2M population -- I think I should be abnle to find a core group.   
      
   Guess I'd best get out & learn how to start up a BBS & become a Fido echomail    
   node/route. . . I know there's BBS Corner out there; anyone know of other    
   helpful sites for newbie sysops who want a telnet board?   
   --- BBBS/Li6 v4.10 Toy-5   
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