Hey Nancy!   
      
   Oct 01 15:02 06, Nancy Backus wrote to Maurice Kinal:   
      
    NB> Some of my sisters were more flamboyant and out-spoken with their    
    NB> ways   
    NB> of breaking away...   
      
   Right.  That sounds more like my daughters, although from my perspective   
   'flamboyant and out-spoken' wasn't exactly how I looked at it but they   
   probably did.    
      
    NB> My experience has been that if one is fair with kids, they respond   
    NB> favorably.  This even worked when I and hubby were able to help my   
    NB> youngest brother see M&D's point of view without provoking the usual   
    NB> rebellions from him.   
      
   That can happen.  I am not sure if any 'input' I give the one kid that shows   
   up here from time to time has any effect but I figure it is worth a shot.  His   
   dad never complained about anything any time I've talked to him so I suspect   
   any 'input' at least isn't hurting anything.   
      
    NB> when they inwardly do...  An uninvolved adult is safer to agree with.    
    NB> :)   
      
   Or safer to disagree with without causing any major disturbances in family   
   dynamics.  Mind you I still 'win' when that happens but I doubt the kid ever   
   feels he 'lost'.   
      
    NB> When they get a little older they figure out that they CAN agree and   
    NB> still remain independent...    
      
   I am not sure.  I don't recall if that was an issue to me when I was a kid.    
   Seems to me my older sister had that problem with my parents, especially with   
   my mother.   
      
   Life is good,   
   Maurice   
      
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