-=> Quoting Maurice Kinal to Nancy Backus on 03-30-06  22:59 <=-   
      
    NB>> Hmmm...  hard to say...     I think the analogous question is,    
    NB>> which is better, to have or to be a wife...?   
      
    MK> From the perspective of never wanting to have a husband, having a wife   
    MK> would interest me more, but I know little of why anyone would want to   
    MK> be a wife, nevermind my wife.  You're right it is hard to say.   
      
   The basic reasons are, of course, pretty much the same for both... eg   
   companionship, love, sexuality, security, acceptance...  Not that one   
   always gets what they thought* they'd get...  (and that goes for both   
   wanting one and wanting to be one)   
      
    NB>> When I think of all the things a   
    NB>> wife is supposed to accomplish for one (and all that I DO as one),   
      
    MK> That is interesting.  If I wanted a wife I am sure it wouldn't be the   
    MK> same reasons that is being supposed I'd want one.   
      
   I was musing out loud about people in general, not really about anyone   
   in particular... :)  When one looks at marriage in general, and the   
   expectations of spouses of each other, there is QUITE the list of   
   possible duties/responsibilities.  Husbands expect wives to do stuff   
   they (the husbands) would rather not do, and vice versa...      
   Sometimes the division of labor makes sense, sometimes not...  :)  But   
   there's things like being the "trophy wife", being a "sugar daddy",   
   entertaining, raising the kids, being the schedule coordinator for the   
   whole family, transporting the kids to all their myriad activities and   
   appointments, cooking, cleaning, laundry, handling the finances, yard   
   work, doing the taxes, etc, etc....   :)   
      
   Of course, in a good marriage, many of these will end up being done by   
   both spouses, either in turn or in conjunction, or being the care of one   
   better suited than the other, or be considered not at all important for   
   anyone to do...  :)   
      
    NB>> I think that I might like to HAVE one...   
      
    MK> I wouldn't be so sure about that.   
       
   Not sure whether I'd like to have one or that you would?  Or that, if I   
   did get one whether it would meet my expectations...?    Oh, I know   
   better in reality...     
      
    NB>> of course, I realize there's drawbacks as well...    
      
    MK> Hm.  That raises an interesting question; What are the drawbacks?   
      
   People being people, and certainly not perfect or ideal specimens, they   
   come complete with lots of faults which one has to put up with along   
   with all that they could be doing for one...     
      
   ttyl         neb   
      
   ... Childish Game: One at which your spouse beats you.   
      
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