-=> Quoting Jeff Smith to Nancy Backus on 07-06-16  09:54 <=-   
      
    JS>> Yes indeed. He was a shy boy when he was little. He seems to have   
    JS>> matured into a good and caring adult. When I seen a picture of him and   
    JS>> his family which included his son. I remarked to him that his son looks   
    JS>> exactly like he did at that same age. One habit that my son had when he   
    JS>> was a 3-4 year old was to find him sitting on the kitchen floor taste   
    JS>> testing everything in the fridge.  Seems HIS son does the same thing   
    JS>> now that he is the same age.   
    NB>> Now that's funny...  :)  And neat...  :)  How old was he when he was   
    NB>> taken out of your life...?   
      
    JS> Shortly after that as a matter of fact.    
      
   So that would have been one of your last memories of him, too...   
      
    JS> I had some idea for a time   
    JS> what state he might have been in. And checked with everyone (Including   
    JS> agencies) that I could think of. I don't want to get too negative here   
    JS> but soon after mommy and daddy parted ways. I didn't hear from her at   
    JS> all as to where she was or how she and my son were doing. I recently   
    JS> found out that he entered a foster home at some point thereafter. And   
    JS> was eventually adopted by someone else. Sorry, Nancy but THAT is what   
    JS> gets me the most. I will stop here as I don't believe in parent   
    JS> bashing regardless of what my feelings are.   
      
   It all sounds very hurtful, all around...  And you are right, parent   
   bashing serves no useful purpose, in any case...    
      
    JS> The main thing as I see it Nancy is that we are in contact NOW and we   
    JS> both are open to starting/rebuilding a relationship. I have made a   
    JS> point of being honest to my son and his questions. Regardless of own   
    JS> personal feelings I have avoided expressing them to my son regarding   
    JS> his mother. I want him to form his own opinion unaffected by my   
    JS> attitude.      
      
   Sounds as though he might have similar feelings to yours by this   
   point... but in any case, the past can't be changed... and it's good to   
   be growing the relationship with your son and his family now...  :)   
      
   ttyl          neb   
      
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