-=> Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Nancy Backus on 04-21-16  09:40 <=-   
      
    NB>> Hi, Ruben... :)  Nice to see that you've been lurking here, too... :)    
    NB>> I always did think there were more people around than usually pipe   
    NB>> up.... ;)   
      
    RF> I know a little something about raising daughters.  The first   
    RF> daughter, her mother handled everything and I was clueless.  Sorry to   
    RF> say my involvement as very little, but in her adulthood we have become   
    RF> close in our father daughter relationship.   
      
   I know less about daughters in particular, having only had a son... but   
   as the oldest of 8 siblings (5 younger sisters), I know something about   
   raising kids in general... and a little about girls... ;)   
      
    RF> The second daughter, I was divorced from the first daughter's mom, is   
    RF> from a 2nd marriage.  I was more intensely invovled for a number of   
    RF> reasons, first I was no longer building a career and establising my   
    RF> earnings.  I married a very young woman and I was much older (22 yrs)   
    RF> and we had a daughter, Sarah.    
    RF> Sarah's mom passed away when she was 6 years old and she is now 17   
    RF> going on 18 this August.  So I was intrinsically involved in her   
    RF> upbringing.  Many things I found out how little I knew about little   
    RF> girls, girls maturing (puberty) girls and their hearts, and I could go   
    RF> on and on.  I did have some help from my eldest daughter, that's when   
    RF> our relationship began to develop.    
      
   That makes sense.... and it was good that your older daughter could and   
   was willing to help... ;)   
      
    RF> Now Sarah is a Senior, ready to graduate, driving and ready to go to   
    RF> college to start her life and so I am entering into another phase with   
    RF> her, her independence of dad is lessening more and more.  Her love is   
    RF> strong, I can see it and feel it but she no longer my little girl.    
    RF> Kind of hard to take but understandable.  I am 65 if you are wondering,   
    RF> she was born when I was 47.    
      
   They do grow up...  and have their own lives... ;)  My son is 42... The   
   relationship changes, but still can be a strong and good one... ours   
   is... :)   
      
    RF> So the advice I gave was based on both of those experiences and my   
    RF> daughters thing and respond.  I found out it is very important that I   
    RF> stop what doing and concentrate what they are wanting my attention.  It   
    RF> tells them they are always first and of utmost importance to me, which   
    RF> they are.    
      
   You've learned very well from your daughters....  :)  And I'm sure that   
   you've also been a good influence in their lives...  :)   
      
    RF> Anyways Sarah is close to graduation and she has one more report card   
    RF> to show me from High School.  I guess I was feeling a little something.   
    RF> I am so proud of her.  Don't know how she turned out to be such a good   
    RF> person.  So much like her mom who showed me many things even as young   
    RF> as she was.    
      
   She obviously has some of each of you in her... :)  Is she going on to   
   college...?  Or does she have other plans....   
      
    RF> Well see you later Nancy.  Have a good day.   
      
   Sorry it took so long to answer, I've been caught up in Real Life with a   
   vengeance the last couple of weeks...  :)  Hopefully I'll be able to   
   catch up soon, and then stay on top of things for a while... ;)   
      
   ttyl      neb   
      
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