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   Ruben Figueroa to NANCY BACKUS   
   Daughter Advice   
   21 Apr 16 09:35:09   
   
    NB> Hi, Ruben... :)  Nice to see that you've been lurking here, too... :)    
    NB> I always did think there were more people around than usually pipe   
    NB> up.... ;)   
      
   I know a little something about raising daughters.  The first daughter, her   
   mother handled everything and I was clueless.  Sorry to say my involvement as   
   very little, but in her adulthood we have become close in our father daughter   
   relationship.   
      
   The second daughter, I was divorced from the first daughter's mom, is from a   
   2nd marriage.  I was more intensely invovled for a number of reasons, first I   
   was no longer building a career and establising my earnings.  I married a   
   very young woman and I was much older (22 yrs) and we had a daughter, Sarah.   
      
   Sarah's mom passed away when she was 6 years old and she is now 17 going on   
   18 this August.  So I was intrinsically involved in her upbringing.  Many   
   things I found out how little I knew about little girls, girls maturing   
   (puberty) girls and their hearts, and I could go on and on.  I did have some   
   help from my eldest daughter, that's when our relationship began to develop.   
      
   Now Sarah is a Senior, ready to graduate, driving and ready to go to college   
   to start her life and so I am entering into another phase with her, her   
   independence of dad is lessening more and more.  Her love is strong, I can   
   see it and feel it but she no longer my little girl.  Kind of hard to take   
   but understandable.  I am 65 if you are wondering, she was born when I was 47.   
      
   So the advice I gave was based on both of those experiences and my daughters   
   thing and respond.  I found out it is very important that I stop what   
   doing and concentrate what they are wanting my attention.  It tells them they   
   are always first and of utmost importance to me, which they are.   
      
   Anyways Sarah is close to graduation and she has one more report card to show   
   me from High School.  I guess I was feeling a little something.  I am so   
   proud of her.  Don't know how she turned out to be such a good person.  So   
   much like her mom who showed me many things even as young as she was.   
      
   Well see you later Nancy.  Have a good day.   
      
   Ruben Figueroa   
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