-=> Quoting Ruben Figueroa to Steve Wolf on 04-10-16  08:56 <=-   
      
    SW> I have recently connected with my 18 year old daughter. We haven't   
    SW> seen each other since she was 8 years old. I'm finding myself in   
    SW> "Un-Charted Waters". Do I act like her father? A friend? Her uncle?   
    SW> What? I don't know much about her so I don't want to overwhelm her   
    SW> with questions. How should I procede? Any advice would be greatly   
      
    RF> Never been in those shoes.  But I will give you what I think.   
      
   Hi, Ruben... :)  Nice to see that you've been lurking here, too... :)    
   I always did think there were more people around than usually pipe   
   up.... ;)   
      
    RF> Don't know if this is any good.  I imagine over time with the   
    RF> development of your relationship with her you can development a   
    RF> structure of father and daughter wherein she recoginizes you as such.    
    RF> But she has to acknowledge that role, you can't impose it.   
      
   She probably does see him as biological father, but the relationship   
   would still have to be developed again after all these years...  :)   
      
   ttyl      neb   
      
   ... You can always tell when your on the right road - it's uphill.   
      
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