Re: Daughter Advice   
     By: Ruben Figueroa to Steve Wolf on Sun Apr 10 2016 08:56 am   
      
    SW>> seen each other since she was 8 years old. I'm finding myself in   
    SW>> "Un-Charted Waters". Do I act like her father? A friend? Her uncle?   
      
      
    RF> 1. You have not been involved in her life as her dad, but you are   
    RF> genetically.   
    RF> 2. Since you haven't been, then talk to her as another adult   
    RF> 3. Only offer guidance, advice and opinions when she asks is receptive to   
    RF> that and you will know because she will prompt you   
    RF> 4. Be there for here as any adult with someone they care about and make   
    RF> sure to listen and refrain from trying to fix anything   
    RF> 5. Treat her like a new friend that you want to be on better terms with   
      
    RF> Last of all do not set any rules, but you can set boundaries (what/how you   
    RF> live your life and what you will or definitely will not do)   
      
    RF> Don't know if this is any good. I imagine over time with the development   
    RF> of your relationship with her you can development a structure of father   
    RF> and daughter wherein she recoginizes you as such. But she has to   
    RF> acknowledge that role, you can't impose it.   
      
    RF> Best wishes.   
      
      
   Excellent advice! Thanks very much!   
      
   Steve   
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