Re: Re: stressful  was: misc and parents, etc...   
     By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Thu Jul 30 2015 21:25:16   
      
    NB> We're working on her to realize that..  ;)  At 85, she can get a bit   
    NB> stubborn... but I've been feeding back to her some of her earlier advice   
    NB> to us... ;)  Plus, I've had the experience of having to have therapy to   
    NB> heal from a broken ankle to utilize, so she can't say I don't   
    NB> understand...     
      
     It's good that you've got that...  Recovery from injuries like that is no   
   joke...  I hope she tones it down a little bit.  :)  I know all about the   
   stubbornness that can creep in, though.  I've had a couple of adoptive   
   relatives make it just to or over 100 and yeah, they kind of embodied those   
   sorts of qualities.  Heh.  At least one was a really good person, though.  ;)   
      
    NB> Kinda what I was getting at... even the firsthand can be spun, and/or   
    NB> edited...    
      
     It's good to talk with other people that understand that.  I've got some   
   friends that I just can't take news links or anything else of the sort from   
   anymore because they don't have a critical filter or something.     
      
    NB> In person, one can take advantage of body language and tone of voice and   
    NB> such... which get lost usually in text... unless you know the person   
    NB> very well...  :)  I also can usually defuse situations, particularly in   
    NB> person..  :)   
      
     Yeah the body language is what makes that possible, definitely.  A lot of   
   those crotchety people don't want to be unhappy and complaining, they just want   
   someone to listen to them, and then maybe even some laughing about it.  :)    
   I've been good at defusing situations, too; that came in really handy when I   
   was an MP with the army.  More often than not, though, I guess because I'm a   
   dangler and not a tiny guy, I've been used as someone to enforce things a   
   little more often.  Like evictions and stuff like that, nothing horrifying and   
   not physically violent.  Nothing like that in my past, thank YHVH.   
      
    NB> It all feeds in to what makes you who you are...  :)     
      
     So many things do...  ;)  It's fun learning those things about people.   
      
    DAG>> I know it.  I'll only drink seltzer water, but it's gonna happen.    
    DAG>> My social life has been way too bereft for way too long now.    
    NB> Hopefully a place you can take the kid to... ;)   
      
     Not sure if you were joking or not, but I'm actually planning this particular   
   kind of outing more for myself than a family thing.  ;)  I dunno, I actually   
   kind of miss the club atmosphere, though I'm sure that'll disappate within a   
   few short minutes of being there.  Unless, of course, I'm rapidly approached by   
   female suitors or something.  We'll see where it goes.  heh.  We did make it   
   out to a UU church congregation today, though.  Two out of three weeks now.    
   Things are slowly getting better both for him and I.  Keep your fingers crossed   
   for getting to Aikido finally tomorrow.   
      
    NB> Who knows... he might actually end up enjoying the stimulation of summer   
    NB> school, too..  :)  And he'll get over the drama... especially if you   
    NB> aren't reacting to it the way he wants... ;)   
      
     I think he did, actually.  It's just a shame that I couldn't get him into it   
   sooner this time around.  Now that I know that all of that is budget adjusted   
   as well I won't make the mistake unless he's got a huge cluster of friends to   
   hang out with by next summer.  :)   
     More later, the queue isn't empty yet!   
      
     -D   
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