-=> Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 11-Jul-2015 20:59 <=-   
      
    DAG> Re: Summer plans  was: shinies and sickies  was: camping   
    DAG> By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Sat Jun 27 2015 19:44:06   
    NB>> Now that's a major bummer...  and the construction itself makes it not   
    NB>> so safe a place to be unattended, even in the parts not actually under   
    NB>> construction...   
      
    DAG> Yeah I feel pretty terrible about how much he's been inside lately.   
    DAG> Especially since my Aikido fund got pirated by somebody that had a   
    DAG> banking error who was depositing the checks that are made out to him   
    DAG> but go to both of us.  :|   
      
   Ah, so that's how it happened... I might have guessed... :)  Being so   
   far behind, though, I can hope that things are starting to resolve   
   themselves by now...  :)   I'd guess that it wasn't an intentional   
   error, though, some people just aren't good at careful accounting... :|   
      
    DAG> a lot.  Unfortunately that option is out as well.  I'm still looking   
    DAG> for places, but my range is getting considerably farther out and making   
    DAG> anything except vehicle travel to these places impossible.  I need a   
    DAG> new laptop; having my one with a good battery isn't going to help much   
    DAG> now that I realized that the wireless is out on it as well.  At least   
    DAG> if I'm going to work while he's doing his frolicking.    
      
   Lots of tangles to untangle... but hopefully a good solution can be   
   worked out...  :)   
      
    NB>> I remember going to a small neighborhood library when we lived in PA...   
    NB>> there wasn't a kids section per se, but there was an area where the   
    NB>> kids' books were all kept together... I could walk there by myself (we   
    NB>> moved there when I was going into 6th grade), and it was a preferred   
    NB>> hangout..  ;)   
    DAG> That was really what I was hoping for when I headed to the local   
    DAG> branch here. Unfortunately, the local branches are miniscule, and the   
    DAG> main location that does have all of that stuff that I'd like to take   
    DAG> him to is buried in the inner city.  I mean, I guess we could take the   
    DAG> bus once in awhile and stuff, but getting me to want to go into the   
    DAG> inner city takes elephant tranquilizers or something. I fear and avoid   
    DAG> it.    
      
   Sounds to me as though perhaps you are expecting both too much of the   
   library and too much trouble from the inner city... Starting small with   
   the miniscule branch might not be the worst thing, and perhaps the inner   
   city isn't quite as bad as you fear...?  Of course, true, I don't know   
   the particulars of your town... but I do have some experience in   
   actually living in the "bad part" of town, and finding it not as scary   
   as purported...  :)    
      
    DAG> Good things to note about my son, though.  I'm trying to get out of   
    DAG> this as fast as I can.  Before the financial debaucle happened, I   
    DAG> thought I was getting over a quarter, if not closer to a third, of the   
    DAG> amount that I want to have before I can start considering relocating to   
    DAG> a better location.  It happened quick.  Should happen even quicker when   
    DAG> I'm making the same wages and getting repaid for that, I suppose.   
      
   As long as it's only temporary, it's best to not get too upset by it...   
   and hopefully, it won't happen again....    
       
    NB>> For sure it gets easier when you have a more settled environment...  :)   
    NB>> But behaviors can still be regulated, even when things are crowded and   
    NB>> unsettled... A lot of the training is probably going to be on dealing   
    NB>> with the situation as it is, and learning to self-manage... and praise   
    NB>> when he copes well with things will help as much or more than the   
    NB>> consequences of bad behavior... :)   
      
    DAG> I think that I have more work in being engaged with him and figuring   
    DAG> out some creative things than he does ahead of him there.  I've failed   
    DAG> at that a little bit lately.  Something's taken the wind out of my   
    DAG> sails a bit, and unfortunately I've allowed that to leave him on the   
    DAG> playstation way too much. Time to correct that error and provide   
      
   True... there's training for yourself there, too... training yourself to   
   keep your balance despite the vagaries of life... so as to be able to   
   help him keep his balance...  :)   
      
    DAG> something-- anything-- else, even if it's just neighborhood exploration   
    DAG> walks and more runs with me.  That's part of it, my health got foul for   
    DAG> a couple of days, so I haven't been able to go on my normal runs and   
    DAG> routines that keep me grounded.  Plus I take Deschain along on his bike   
    DAG> (now that he can't keep up running any more) when I'm going for runs   
    DAG> and the like.  Tomorrow morning I'm going to make sure that I get up   
    DAG> and start doing all of that again, even if I have to make some   
    DAG> emergency toilet breaks along the way or whatever.  Pardon my level of   
    DAG> detail.    
      
   Hope things have gotten more back to normal by now...  :)   
      
    DAG> Anyway, more soon.  I'm trying to dig myself out of this pit   
    DAG> that I've ended up in; it's nearing some of the bipolar low territories   
    DAG> that I'm familiar with from not being medicated.  :P  Getting to all of   
    DAG> the correspondence is an integral part of this, at this point, I   
    DAG> believe. Enough about my troubles.  ;)   
      
   Doesn't hurt to have someone to tell them to...  ;)  And correspondence   
   can help you keep your perspective... :)   
      
   ttyl      neb   
      
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