Re: Summer plans  was: shinies and sickies  was: camping   
     By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Sat Jun 27 2015 19:44:06   
      
    NB> Now that's a major bummer...  and the construction itself makes it not   
    NB> so safe a place to be unattended, even in the parts not actually under   
    NB> construction...    
      
     Yeah I feel pretty terrible about how much he's been inside lately.    
   Especially since my Aikido fund got pirated by somebody that had a banking   
   error who was depositing the checks that are made out to him but go to both of   
   us.  :|   
      
    DAG>> adults and crackheads to let my kid free range at.  So I'm trying   
    NB> Those other parks probably wouldn't likely have a lot of other kids to   
    NB> play with, either...     
      
     Yeah, those ones are off limits.  I've hung out there too much when I've been   
   done with jogging or just doing some pullups or something are there are very   
   violent and stabbity, threatening people that come there a lot.  Unfortunately   
   that option is out as well.  I'm still looking for places, but my range is   
   getting considerably farther out and making anything except vehicle travel to   
   these places impossible.  I need a new laptop; having my one with a good   
   battery isn't going to help much now that I realized that the wireless is out   
   on it as well.  At least if I'm going to work while he's doing his frolicking.   
      
    NB> I remember going to a small neighborhood library when we lived in PA...   
    NB> there wasn't a kids section per se, but there was an area where the   
    NB> kids' books were all kept together... I could walk there by myself (we   
    NB> moved there when I was going into 6th grade), and it was a preferred   
    NB> hangout..  ;)   
      
     That was really what I was hoping for when I headed to the local branch here.   
   Unfortunately, the local branches are miniscule, and the main location that   
   does have all of that stuff that I'd like to take him to is buried in the inner   
   city.  I mean, I guess we could take the bus once in awhile and stuff, but   
   getting me to want to go into the inner city takes elephant tranquilizers or   
   something.  I fear and avoid it.   
      
    NB> A working portable computer might be just the thing... ;)  Keep you both   
    NB> from being caged in too tightly... :)   But the point I was trying to   
    NB> make is that some things just can't be helped, and it doesn't hurt the   
    NB> kid to be deprived of what he thinks (or even you think) he needs...   
    NB> particularly when it is probably short-term...  Best way to really make   
    NB> it up to the kid, so to speak, is to get the situation settled better,   
    NB> even if it takes longer than one hopes for...  :)   
      
     Yeah.  I'm going to have to wait until I get repaid the damn near (if not   
   over $1000) that's rightfully owed to me for my employment right now,   
   unfortunately.  I had a lot of plans for that stuff.  This mistake that   
   occurred was avoidable, too.  A second burn from the same fire for this person,   
   if you will.  I was really not too happy about it, nor the imposed quarantine   
   that has resulted.   
     Good things to note about my son, though.  I'm trying to get out of this as   
   fast as I can.  Before the financial debaucle happened, I thought I was getting   
   over a quarter, if not closer to a third, of the amount that I want to have   
   before I can start considering relocating to a better location.  It happened   
   quick.  Should happen even quicker when I'm making the same wages and getting   
   repaid for that, I suppose.   
      
    NB> For sure it gets easier when you have a more settled environment...  :)    
    NB> But behaviors can still be regulated, even when things are crowded and   
    NB> unsettled... A lot of the training is probably going to be on dealing   
    NB> with the situation as it is, and learning to self-manage... and praise   
    NB> when he copes well with things will help as much or more than the   
    NB> consequences of bad behavior... :)   
      
     I think that I have more work in being engaged with him and figuring out some   
   creative things than he does ahead of him there.  I've failed at that a little   
   bit lately.  Something's taken the wind out of my sails a bit, and   
   unfortunately I've allowed that to leave him on the playstation way too much.    
   Time to correct that error and provide something-- anything-- else, even if   
   it's just neighborhood exploration walks and more runs with me.  That's part of   
   it, my health got foul for a couple of days, so I haven't been able to go on my   
   normal runs and routines that keep me grounded.  Plus I take Deschain along on   
   his bike (now that he can't keep up running any more) when I'm going for runs   
   and the like.  Tomorrow morning I'm going to make sure that I get up and start   
   doing all of that again, even if I have to make some emergency toilet breaks   
   along the way or whatever.  Pardon my level of detail.   
     Anyway, more soon.  I'm trying to dig myself out of this pit that I've ended   
   up in; it's nearing some of the bipolar low territories that I'm familiar with   
   from not being medicated.  :P  Getting to all of the correspondence is an   
   integral part of this, at this point, I believe.   
     Enough about my troubles.  ;)   
      
     -D   
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