-=> Quoting Damon A. Getsman to Nancy Backus on 13-May-2015 21:47 <=-   
      
    NB>> You must have been anticipating my response to the previous message.  ;)   
    DAG> Well I was feeling gung ho about it at the time, but things have   
    DAG> gotten to a state where I'm really not feeling the extra motivation   
    DAG> right now.  Besides, if the guy was just making some mistakes out of   
    DAG> the box, I don't want to pound a nail in his coffin there.  Weird how   
    DAG> my point of view has changed now that I've got better income. :)   
      
   Well, I suppose with better income outside of that job, you have a lot   
   less hide in the issuer... ;)  And, I suppose also that if he hasn't   
   improved any since, others will probably do the complaining up the   
   scale... :)   
      
    NB>> If they don't offer, or even that job doesn't pan out, there is still   
    NB>> volunteering... if you were to volunteer at, say, a rescue mission, you   
    NB>> might also gain/keep a healthy perspective on your own situation... ;)   
    DAG> Definitely doing a Free Geek shift soon.  :)  I've been thinking a   
    DAG> bit, as well, about volunteering at a shelter though, too.  I've been   
    DAG> _in_ that situation before, but not in an urban area.  I think you're   
    DAG> right it may damn well put some much needed perspective on my   
    DAG> situation.  It's been awhile since I even has an ear to the ground near   
    DAG> such things.  The last work I did in a setting like that was as an   
    DAG> intake specialist helping people like that out with cash grants.   
      
   Seeing the people without any "feet" makes one less grumpy about not   
   having "shoes"...  ;)  Years ago, I was an income maintenance worker for   
   DSS... one does learn to appreciate what one does have, as well as learn   
   more compassion for those with a lot less...  :)   
       
    NB>> Kids in general tend to be masters at manipulation... give in once, and   
    NB>> they'll try to make it happen again...  one just has to stand firm...   
    NB>> every time... ;)  And if one does appear to be giving in, one should   
    NB>> explain why and in what way(s) this help is different from just doing it   
    NB>> for them...  ;)  He knows that you want him to look good as well as do   
    NB>> well... so you may have to (seemingly continually) explain to him the   
    NB>> difference, and how his doing it well on his own is much better all   
    NB>> around, at least in the long run...  Not that he'll act like he gets it,   
    NB>> but eventually it sinks in... :)   
    DAG> That's pretty much what I do.  :)  I get compliments on my extensive   
    DAG> explanations for the reasons behind things to him all the time.  It's   
    DAG> a really nice bit of feedback to get, especially when things are low.   
      
   Reinforcement that you are doing your job, and doing it well..  :)   
       
    NB>> And priorities can shift, as pressing things come into play.  Currently,   
    NB>> I've been spending a fair bit of time with my mom in the hospital.. She   
    NB>> normally lives with one of my sisters, and there's another sister   
    NB>> besides me here somewhat locally, so all of us have been spending a lot   
    NB>> of time, trying to keep one of us (or a trusted friend) there around the   
    NB>> clock.  :)  Doesn't help my schedule any that the hospital is almost an   
    NB>> hour away from home for me, either... ;)  She is going home this   
    NB>> afternoon, so things will mitigate slightly, since there will be more   
    NB>> options for coverage once she's back home.  :)  Anyway... message   
    NB>> writing had to be relegated to bits of time found amongst the   
    NB>> leftovers...     
    DAG> I'm terribly sorry to hear that your mom was in the hospital.    
    DAG> Medical issues are always bogus.  I hope that y'all were able to make   
    DAG> her time in there somewhat more tolerable.    
      
   It seemed to have been helpful... she had very little delirium, which is   
   a major risk especially for the elderly in a stressful environment...   
   and she is improving steadily now that she is home.  She had to have   
   emergency bowel surgery, fortunately not worst-case scenario, and the   
   surgeon was quite happy with how she progressed afterwards... Maybe now   
   she won't keep having some of the bowel issues she was having...   
      
    DAG> For certain do not worry in the slightest about packets taking   
    DAG> awhile to trickle back out.  As always, IRL is more important,   
    DAG> especially when it's family.  I hope that things are doing better   
    DAG> in that situation, and wish you & yours the best.    
      
   Thank you very much.  :)  I don't worry... just try to get the the   
   packets when possible... This week the issue, beyond still being part of   
   "Mommy-care", is that I was away over the weekend for a niece's wedding,   
   in PA near Pittsburgh... and this coming weekend, I have another trip   
   coming up, slightly longer... and no online access while away,   
   either....  ;)  RL always takes precedence where necessary...  ;)   
      
   ttyl           neb   
      
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