Re: Re: trying again   
     By: Nancy Backus to Damon A. Getsman on Tue May 12 2015 14:01:48   
      
    NB> You must have been anticipating my response to the previous message.  ;)   
      
     Well I was feeling gung ho about it at the time, but things have gotten to a   
   state where I'm really not feeling the extra motivation right now.  Besides, if   
   the guy was just making some mistakes out of the box, I don't want to pound a   
   nail in his coffin there.  Weird how my point of view has changed now that I've   
   got better income. :)   
      
    NB> If they don't offer, or even that job doesn't pan out, there is still   
    NB> volunteering... if you were to volunteer at, say, a rescue mission, you   
    NB> might also gain/keep a healthy perspective on your own situation... ;)   
      
     Definitely doing a Free Geek shift soon.  :)  I've been thinking a bit, as   
   well, about volunteering at a shelter though, too.  I've been _in_ that   
   situation before, but not in an urban area.  I think you're right it may damn   
   well put some much needed perspective on my situation.  It's been awhile since   
   I even has an ear to the ground near such things.  The last work I did in a   
   setting like that was as an intake specialist helping people like that out with   
   cash grants.   
      
    NB> Kids in general tend to be masters at manipulation... give in once, and   
    NB> they'll try to make it happen again...  one just has to stand firm...   
    NB> every time... ;)  And if one does appear to be giving in, one should   
    NB> explain why and in what way(s) this help is different from just doing it   
    NB> for them...  ;)  He knows that you want him to look good as well as do   
    NB> well... so you may have to (seemingly continually) explain to him the   
    NB> difference, and how his doing it well on his own is much better all   
    NB> around, at least in the long run...  Not that he'll act like he gets it,   
    NB> but eventually it sinks in... :)   
      
     That's pretty much what I do.  :)  I get compliments on my extensive   
   explanations for the reasons behind things to him all the time.  It's a really   
   nice bit of feedback to get, especially when things are low.   
      
    NB> And priorities can shift, as pressing things come into play.  Currently,   
    NB> I've been spending a fair bit of time with my mom in the hospital.. She   
    NB> normally lives with one of my sisters, and there's another sister   
    NB> besides me here somewhat locally, so all of us have been spending a lot   
    NB> of time, trying to keep one of us (or a trusted friend) there around the   
    NB> clock.  :)  Doesn't help my schedule any that the hospital is almost an   
    NB> hour away from home for me, either... ;)  She is going home this   
    NB> afternoon, so things will mitigate slightly, since there will be more   
    NB> options for coverage once she's back home.  :)  Anyway... message   
    NB> writing had to be relegated to bits of time found amongst the   
    NB> leftovers...     
      
     I'm terribly sorry to hear that your mom was in the hospital.  Medical issues   
   are always bogus.  I hope that y'all were able to make her time in there   
   somewhat more tolerable.  For certain do not worry in the slightest about   
   packets taking awhile to trickle back out.  As always, IRL is more important,   
   especially when it's family.  I hope that things are doing better in that   
   situation, and wish you & yours the best.   
      
     -D   
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