-=> Quoting Sean Rima to Nancy Backus on 10-01-06  00:35 <=-   
      
    > Actually, that's a general rule of thumb.  In most cases, the real   
    > conflict is between the child and his/her parents, as they get into the   
    > age to need to grow to be adults in their own right.  Other adults can   
    > step into the breach at that point as valued advisors, and the kid will   
    > have a reasonable relationship there.  Even the best of kids will   
    > probably have their drag-down-knock-outs with their parents, but will   
    > still be good as gold for OTHER adults, as long as they get treated with   
    > a modicum of respect and kindness.  And for most of the worst kids, the   
    > same will probably hold true, again with an adult who treats them like   
    > they are worth something after all...   :)   
      
    SR> Yeah I think you are right. My young lad has problems dealing with   
    SR> things that happened in the past with my ex wife, the problem is that   
    SR> they tend to take it out on those closest to them   
      
   A. those closest are probably the safest ones to act out with, and B.   
   those closest are also the most available ones...   Gotta just love them   
   anyway, even when needing to take them to account for the wrong   
   behaviour... and let them know that they are loved for themselves no   
   matter what.  The past stays as some sort of baggage, but hopefully   
   he'll be able to work past it for the most part.  Helping him past is   
   probably mostly your job.  And a very sincere "good luck" with that.  :)   
      
   ttyl         neb   
      
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