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    SB>> Well, that was, is, and will always be one of the most stupid things I   
    JH> have   
    SB>> ever heard. I was a lifer, that meant I planned on doing 20 years, are   
   you   
    SB>> saying I should have waited 20 years to get married. The COB told me   
    SB>> that crap   
    SB>> when he denied me leave to go home and get married. Said if the Navy   
    SB>> wanted me   
    SB>> to get married they would have issued me a wife with my seabag. I told   
   him   
      
    ...   
      
    JH> Most people aren't lifers, either.  The fact remains that   
    JH> most young enlisted personnel get married at too young an   
    JH> age when they don't know how to handle a lot of the crap   
    JH> life throws at them, plus the added burden of long term   
    JH> deployments, and constantly changing duty stations. All of   
      
    Which applies maybe to some, but not all. Duty stations didn't   
    change that often back when I was in. I had two stations after I   
    got married. And one post training station before.   
      
    JH> that stuff is one of the reasons why the divorce rate among   
    JH> military marrieds is sky high. I was in the Navy, too, and   
    JH> I saw everything I've said on a regular basis. I'm glad you   
      
    The divorce rate may be high more because of bad pay. That and   
    current multiple deployments to the war. Which is going to be   
    bad for anyone, and even shouldn't happen to the single guys.   
      
    JH> were happy and that you were able to make a successful go   
    JH> of it, but I watched a lot of shipmates go through   
    JH> emotional hell because they were at sea and their wife was   
    JH> having some kind of crisis back home.   
      
    Most military personell don't go to sea.   
      
    JH> So, what I said isn't stupid at all.  Obviously, someone   
    JH> who is a career enlisted is cut from a different bolt of   
    JH> cloth than a four year enlistee. They are better able to   
    JH> deal with things or they wouldn't have decided on a 20 year   
    JH> hitch to start with. But for the majority, they are far too   
    JH> often too young, and get married for the wrong reasons, and   
    JH> would be better off waiting for the 2-4 years most people   
    JH> spend in military service.   
      
    I don't actually disagree with that, but I do recognize how it   
    also can be very wrong. However, military service also means the   
    serviceman is often stationed somewhere he isn't going to have   
    much of a social life. Bringing one with him gives him a much   
    better life.   
      
      
      
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