Hey Nancy!   
      
    NB> what would benefit one might not the other, and indeed might even   
    NB> prove detrimental   
      
   Looking back, it seems to me it was more of "the punishment fitting the crime"   
   dealie.  For example if I sent them to their rooms for time out for the   
   younger one that was punishment but for the eldest it wasn't since she often   
   willing went to her room to read books.  She was a real bookworm that one and   
   it was virtually impossible to find a suitable punishment although she seldom   
   required any punishment.   
      
   Speaking of punishments, often I would 'threaten' to send them off to a   
   Catholic girls school which rightly neither took as a serious threat ... which   
   it never was.  However decades later the younger one was totally caught off   
   guard when she found out the place actually existed.  All those years ago she   
   thought I had made it up.  Same deal with math camp which her eldest son   
   willingly enrolls in every summer.  She thought I made that one up too.   
      
    NB> At least you have grandchildren   
      
   Yes.  I definetly live a charmed life and probably don't deserve any of it.    
   :::evil grin:::   
      
   Life is good,   
   Maurice   
      
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