Subject: alt.polyamory FAQ: Cultural Supplement
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                     The Alt.polyamory FAQ
                       Culture Supplement

1.) Poly Non-fiction

2.) Poly Fiction

3.) Poly Movies

4.) Poly Songs

5.) Other Poly Creativeness

6.) Poly Organizations
    a.) Mailing Lists
    b.) Web Pages
    c.) Organisations
    d.) Notes

Key to symbols: * indicates level of poly in piece
                ! indicates poly friendliness of piece
            
For further information on books on this list, you can telnet the 
Library of Congress at dra.com or locis.loc.gov


1.) Poly Non-fiction

   ***** !!!!! Deborah Anapol, "Love Without Limits" (see IRC listing under
                    organizations)
   **       !! Simone De Beauvoir, "Adieux: a Farewell to Sartre"
   ***** !!!!! M. L. Carden, "Oneida: Utopian Community to Modern
                    Corporation"
   ***** !     Audrey Chapman, "Mansharing: Dilemma or Choice"
   ***** !!!!  G. Clanton & C. Downing, "Face to Face to Face"
   ***** !!    L. & J. Constantine, "Group Marriage"
   ***   !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Heavenly Breakfast"
   **    !!!!  Samuel R. Delany, "The Motion of Light in Water"
   **    !!!!  Helen Fisher, "Anatomy of Love"
   *     !     Arno Karlen, "Threesomes: Studies in Sex, Power, and
                    Intimacy"
   ***** !!!!! Aidan A. Kelly (ed), "The New Polygamy: The Polyamorous
                    Lifestyle as a New Spiritual Path."
   ***** !!!!! Kevin Lano & Claire Parry (ed), "Breaking the Barriers to
                    Desire: Polyamory, Polyfidelity, and Non-monogamy"
   ***   !!!   R. Libby & R. Whitehurst, "Marriage and Alternatives:
                    Exploring Intimate Relationships"
   ***   !!!   Spencer Klaw, "Without Sin"
   ***   !!!   R. Mazur, "The New Intimacy: Open Marriages and Alternative 
                    Lifestyles"
   **    !     Peter McWilliams, "Ain't Nobody's Business If You Do: The
                    Absurdity of Consentual Crimes in a Free Society"
   ***** !!!!! Ryam Nearing, "Loving More: The Polyfidelity Primer"
                    (see PEP listing under organizations)
   **    !!!   Anais Nin, "The Diaries of Anais Nin"
   ****  !!!!! Nena and George O'Neill, "Open Marriage"
   ***   !!!   James Ramey, "Intimate Friendships"
   ***   !!!   Carl Rogers, "Becoming Partners: Marriage and Its
                     Alternatives"
   **    !!!!  Bertrand Russell, "Marriage and Morals"
   ***** !!!   Gay Talese, "Thy Neighbor's Wife"
   ***   !!    Robert Thamm, "Beyond Marriage and the Nuclear Family"


1.) Poly Fiction

   *     !     Isabel Allende, "Eva Luna"
   ***   !!    Thea Alexander, "2150 AD"
   **    !!!   Wilhelmina Baird, "Crashcourse"
   ***   !!!   John Dudley Ball, "Chief Tallon and the S.O.R."
   ***   !!!   M. A. R. Barker, "Flamesong"
   ***   !!!   M. A. R. Barker, "Man of Gold"
   ****  !!!!  Gael Baudino, "Gossamer Axe"
   **    !!!   Boccacio, "The Decameron", collection of short stories
   ****  !!!!! Amy Bloom, "Love is Not a Pie", short story
   ***   !!!!  Marion Zimmer Bradley, "The Forbidden Tower"
   **    !!    Rita Mae Brown, "Six of One"
   **    !!    Orson Scott Card, "Saints"
   **    !!!   Ernest Callenbach, "Ecotopia"
   **    !!!   Ernest Callenbach, "Ecotopia Emerging"
   **    !!!!  Micheal Cunningham, "A Home at the End of the World"
   **    !!    Robertson Davies, "Fifth Business"
   **    !!    Robertson Davies, "Leaven of Malice"
   **    !!    Robertson Davies, "Lyre of Orpheus"
   **    !!    Robertson Davies, "World of Wonders"
   *     !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Babel-17"
   *     !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Dhalgren"
   ***   !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "The Mad Man"
   **    !!!!! Samuel R. Delany, "Stars in My Pocket Like Grains of Sand" 
   ***   !!!!  Peter Dickenson, "King and Joker"
   **    !!!   Diane Duane, "The Door into Fire"
   **    !!!   Wayne Dyer, "Gifts From Eykis"
   ***   !!!   Goethe, "Wahlverwandschaften"
   ***   !!!   Robert Graves, "Watch the North Wind Rise"
   *     !!    Andrew Harvey, "Burning Houses"
   **    !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Beyond This Horizon"
   **    !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "The Cat Who Walked Through Walls"
   **    !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Friday"
   ***   !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Glory Road"
   **    !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Gulf"
   ****  !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "I Will Fear No Evil"
   ***   !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Methuselah's Children"
   **    !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "The Moon is a Harsh Mistress"
   ***   !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "The Number of the Beast"
   ***   !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "To Sail Beyond the Sunset"
   ****  !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Stranger in a Strange Land"
   ****  !!!!! Robert Heinlein, "Time Enough For Love"
   *     !!!   John Irving, "The World According to Garp"
   ***   !!    Mercedes Lackey & Ellen Guon, "Bedlam Boyz"
   ***   !!    Mercedes Lackey & Ellen Guon, "Knight of Ghosts and Shadows"
   *     !!    Mercedes Lackey & Ellen Guon, "Summoned to Tourney"  
   **    !!!!  Doris Lessing, "The Marriages Between Zones Three, Four, 
                    and Five" 
   ***   !!    Elizabeth Lynn, "The Dancers of Arun"
   ***   !!    Elizabeth Lynn, "A Different Light" 
   ***   !!    Elizabeth Lynn, "The Sardonyx Net"
   ****  !!!!  Donald Kingsbury, "Courtship Rite" ("Geta" in the UK)
   ****  !     Milan Kundera, "The Unbearable Lightness of Being"
   ***   !!!   Michael P. Kube-McDowell, "The Quiet Pools"
   ****  !!!!  Larry McMurty, "Leaving Cheyenne"
   **    !!!   Vonda McIntyre, "Starfarers"
   **    !!!   Vonda McIntyre, "Transition"
   **    !!!   Vonda McIntyre, "Metaphase"
   **    !!!   Vonda McIntyre, "Nautilus"
   *     !!    Somerset Maugham, "Cakes and Ale"
   *     !!!!! Shirley Meier, "Shadow's Daughter"
   *     !     Vladimir Nabokov, "Ada"
   ****  !     Maxine Paetro, "Manshare"
   *     !!!   David Palmer, "Emergence"
   ****  !!!!  Marge Piercy, "The High Cost of Living"
   ***   !!    Marge Piercy, "Woman on the Edge of Time"
   ***   !!!   Marge Piercy, "Summer People"
   ****  !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Come Live My Life"
   ****  !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Harrad Experiment"
   ***   !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Immoral Reverend"
   ***   !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Love Exchange"
   ***   !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Premar Experiments"
   ***   !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Proposition 31"
   ***   !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "The Rebellion of Yale Marrat"
   ****  !!!!! Robert Rimmer, "Thursday My Love"
   **    !!    Elizabeth Scarbourough, "The Harem of Aman Akbar"
   **    !!!   Melissa Scott, "The Empress of Earth"
   **    !!!   Melissa Scott, "The Five-Twelfths of Heaven"
   **    !!!   Melissa Scott, "Silence in Solitude"
   ***   !!!!! Starhawk, "The Fifth Sacred Thing"
   *     !!!!! S. M. Stirling, "Snow Brother"
   ****  !!!!! S. M. Stirling & Shirley Meier, "The Cage"
   *     !!!!! S. M. Stirling & Shirley Meier, "Saber and Shadow"
   ***   !!!!! S. M. Stirling, Shirley Meier, & Karen Wehrstein, "Shadow's
                     Son"
   **    !!!   John Varley, Gaia trilogy; "Demon", "Titan", "Wizard"
   **    !!!   John Varley, "The Persistance of Vision"
   **    !!!   Joan D. Vinge, "The Outcasts of Heaven's Gate"
   **    !!!   Alice Walker, "The Temple of My Familiar"
   ****  !!!!! Karen Wehrstein, "Lion's Heart"
   ****  !!!!! Karen Wehrstein, "Lion's Soul"
   ***   !!!   James Wharram, "Two Girls, Two Catamarans"
   **    !!!   Kate Wilhelm, "Where Late the Sweet Birds Sing"


3.) Poly Movies

   "Another Woman's Lipstick"
    (Denise Crosby)
     Three episodes based on "Red Shoe Diaries", first episode concerns
     a woman who has two different lovers, who satisfy different needs.
     More dishonest monogamy than polyamory.

   "Belle Epoque"
    (Ariadna Gil)
     Spanish film set just before the Spanish Civil War. An artist takes in
     a deserter, who repays him by sleeping with all four of his 
     daughters.  It's pretty light hearted and a warm farcical romp.

   "Bob & Carol & Ted & Alice" 
    (Robert Culp, Angie Dickenson)
     This is very much a wife-swapping tale, rather than being more
     generally oriented. Widely known and raises many poly questions.

   "Cafe au Lait"
     French film about a woman who becomes pregnant by one of her lovers.
     The three of them wind up forming a family of sorts to raise the child.

   "A Change of Seasons"
    (Shirley Maclaine, Bo Derek)
     Maclaine's professor husband has an affair with Derek; she then has
     an affair of her own, and then the four decide to go on a holiday 
     together to see whether they can work something out...

   "Design for Living"
    (Gary Cooper, Fredrich March, Miriam Hopkins)
     Adaptation of Noel Coward's stage play about an artist (Cooper) and a
     playwright (March), friends and Americans in Paris and what happens
     when the both fall in love with a woman (Hopkins). 

   "Enemies: A Love Story"
    (Angelica Houston, Ron Silver)
     A tale of a man and the three women in his life.

   "Farinelli"
     The story of the 18th century castrati opera star. There are a 
     number of scenes portraying the title character and his brother 
     sharing a woman. This movie is rated R.

   "The Harrad Experiment"
    (James Whitmore, Tippi Hedron, Don Johnson)
     Adaptation of the Robert Rimmer book. Unfortunately it spends so much
     time on the topic of public nudity that it has little left over to 
     deal with poly issues.

   "Harrad Summer"

   "Heartbeat"
     (Nick Nolte)
      This is the story of "beat" reporter Jack Kerouac's affair with a 
      married couple.

   "Henry and June"
    (Uma Thurman, Fred Ward)
     Writer Henry Miller has an affair with his friend Anais Nin... and
     then his wife June shows up. Anais finds herself becoming attracted
     to June....

   "The Hunger"
    (Catherine Deneuve, David Bowie, Susan Sarandon)
     More bi than poly, and only a few moments of that. At the end
     Sarandon's character seems to have new lovers of both genders.

   "Jules and Jim"
    (Oskar Werner, Jeanne Moreau)

   "A Lesson in Love"
    (1954) (Ingmar Bergman)
     A romantic comedy about a doctor trying to win back his wife after
     she leaves him over an affair of his.
 
  "Lianna"
   (John Sayles)
    A professor's wife finds out he's haveing an affair, and at the same
    time falls in love with a female professor. More a lesbian tale than
    a poly one, but especially good at showing the effects on family and
    friends of "coming out" different.

   "Loving Couples"

   "Loving Molly"
    (Beau Bridges, Sally Fields)
     The story of three men and the one woman that they share from the time
     they are children and throughout their lives.

   "Lucky Lady"
    (Liza Minelli, Gene Hackman, Burt Reynolds)
     It does look like the three main characters are getting set to stay
     together at the end of the movie.

   "Mahabharata"
     Contains the marriage of five brothers, the Pandava, to a single wife,
     Draupadi, based (I believe) on aspects of mythology from India.

   "Mickey and Maude"
    (Dudley Moore)
     Light-hearted romp about a man who gets himself married to two 
     different people. When everyone finds out, they try to share.

   "No Way Out"
    (Kevin Costner, Sean Young, Gene Hackman)
     Costner gets involved with Young, who is already involved with his
     boss (Hackman). Bad things happen. She actively says that she is 
     poly (before she is killed).

   "Paint Your Wagon"
    (Lee Marvin, Jean Seberg, Clint Eastwood)
     Due to the scarity of women, Marvin and Eastwood share one.

   "Red Shoe Diaries"
     Man finds out about girlfriends poly lifestyle after she kills
     herself. Then he meets her other lover.

   "Rita and Sue ... and Bob too"
     A married man's affair with two younger women causes his wife to
     leave him. Can the three lovers transmute their sexual interest into
     something more lasting?

   "Same Time Next Year
    (Alan Alda)
     Alda has a once a year meeting with his lover (as opposed to his wife),
     most of the time is spent examining the changes in the two people in
     the intervening times.

   "The Seduction of Joe Tynan"
    (Alan Alda)
     Alda plays a politician who falls in love with another woman at a
     convention.

   "Sharing Richard"
     A lawyer, a real estate agent, and an office worker, who are best
     friends, separately meet and start dating a recently divorced doctor.
     Instead of breaking it off, they decide to share him without his 
     knowledge.

   "She's Gotta Have It"
     One of Spike Lee's earliest films, deals with a polyamorous young
     woman and the three men who want her to choose. There are also
     alot of Afro-American male/female issues addressed in this movie.
   
   "Small Circle of Friends"
     Genuine poly values are central to the plot of this film about
     a MFM triad. Low-budget production, but asks good questions.
    
   "The Substitute Wife"
    (Lea Thomson, Farrah Fawcett)
     Thomsons character is dying, and she finds Fawcett to be a new
     wife for her husband. The family falls in love with the new woman
     and then Thomson miraculously recovers. They decide to keep the
     family together with both women.

   "Summer Lovers"
    (Darryl Hannah, Valerie Quenessen, Peter Gallagher)
     A young American couple on a summer vacation in the Mediterranean
     get involved with a French archaeologist.
 
   "Threesome"
    (Laura Flynn Boyle, Steven Baldwin, Josh Charles)
     The story of 2 men and 1 woman who find themselves assigned to the
     same dorm room, and the relationship that develops. Their multi-partner
     relationship is portrayed in a very poly-friendly way.

   "The Unbearable Lightness of Being"
    (Daniel Day-Lewis, Lena Olin)
     The womanizing Tomas falls in love with the monogamous Tereza, but
     cannot give up his lover Sabina....Meanvhile, Russian tanks roll over
     Prague...

   "Willie and Phil"
    (Michael Ontkean, Margot Kidder, Ray Sharkey)
     Seventies movie about a polyamorous triad involved in the protest
     movement. Somewhat of a remake of "Jules and Jim"

   "The Wedding Banquet"
    (Winston Chao, Mitchell Lichtenstein, May Chin)
     In spite of his partner's reservations, a gay man and a starving artist
     decide to marry, he to get his traditional, matchmaking parents off his
     back and she to keep from being deported. Things get....complicated.


4.) Poly Songs 

   Joan Armatrading, "The Weakness in Me"
   Barenaked Ladies, "Alternative Girlfriend"
   William Bell, "Trying to Love Two"
   Christopher Bingham, "Family"
   Chris de Burgh, "More Than This"
   Patsy Cline, "Triangle"
   Leonard Cohen, "The Sisters of Mercy"
   David Crosby, Jefferson Airplane, "Triad"
   Devo, "Happy Guy"
   Jane's Addiction, "Three Days"
   Howard Jones, "Noone is to Blame"
   King Crimson, "Man With an Open Heart"
   Christine Lavin, "Don't Ever Call Your Sweetheart By His Name"
   Lovin Spoonful, "Did You Ever Have to Make Up Your Mind"
   Deidre McCalla, "Don't Doubt It"
   Mary MacGregor, "Torn Between Two Lovers"
   Joni Mitchell, "Cactus Tree"
   Joni Mitchell, "Coyote"
   Mondo Vita, "Four Way Stop"
   The Monks, "Love in Stereo"
   Michael Nesmith, "Different Drum"
   Prince, Cyndi Lauper, "When U Were Mine" 
   Resless Heart, "Why Does It Have to Be"
   The Roches, "You're the Two"
   Sting, "Tea in the Sahara"



5.) Other Poly Creativeness

        Love and Rockets comic books have a poly/bi accepting story line
     written by Jaime Hernandez
        Omaha the Cat Dancer and ElfQuest comic books also have main 
     characters that are frequently or occasionally involved in polyamourous
     relationships.
         There was a comic in the Kerista newsletters called "Far Out West"
     some of these have been collated into a comic called, "Polly Morphus
     in FAR OUT WEST".

6.) Poly Organizations

    a.) Mailing lists

Poly - to subscribe send a message containing "subscribe poly" to
   listserv@lupine.org. This list replaces the "triples" mailing list. It
   is a moderated list for discussion of poly issues.

Poly-activism - to subscribe send a message to majordomo@world.std.com with
   the line "subscribe poly-activism" in the body of the messase. This is
   a low volume list specifically for the announcement and discussion of
   situations involving the politics of poly.

Poly-Boston - to subscribe send a message to majordomo@world.std.com with
   the line "subscribe poly-boston" in the body of the message. This is
   a list for poly and poly-friendly folk in the Boston, MA USA area.

Polyfidelity - to subscribe send a message to hermit@cats.ucsc.edu and
   tell him you wish to be added to the list. The list address is
   polyfi@cats.ucsc.edu.


    b.) Web pages

Triples list -- http://www.mit.edu:8001/people/ert/triples/home.html

Polyamory index -- http://www.hal.com/~landman/Poly

Group Marriage Alliance -- http://www.teleport.com/~beattie/gma

Abundant Love Institute (see below) -- http://www.wp.com/lovemore

Family Tree (see below) -- http://www.contra.org/ftree

Society for Human Sexuality -- http://weber.u.washington.edu/~sfpse
 
South Florida Polyamorists -- http://www.gate.net/~ceres/poly_02.htm


   c.) Organizations

                                      
Abundant Love Institute               Abundant Love Institute
Membership Information                Conference Information
P.O Box 4322                          P.O. Box 6306
San Rafael, CA 94913-4322             Ocean View, HI 96737
(415) 507-1739                        (808) 929-9691

Church of All Worlds                  Delaware Valley Synergy
P.O. Box 1542                         Box 252
Ukiah, CA 95482                       Huntington Valley, PA 19006-0252

Live the Dream                        Touchpoint
6454 Van Nuys Blvd #150               Network for the Nonmonogamous
Van Nuys, CA 91401                    P.O. Box 408
818/361-6737                          Chloride, AZ 86431

Loving Alternatives                   Oregon Local
P.O. Box 10509                        P.O. Box 5247
State College, PA 16805-0509          Eugene, OR 97405
                                      503/683-6197

Family Tree                           Potomac Area Lifestyles (Pals)
P.O. Box 441275                       509 East 42nd Street 
Somerville, MA 02144                  Baltimore, MD 21218-1202
email: ftree@contra.org

Tri-State Polyamory                   Beyond Monogamy Inc.
P.O. Box 625                          P.O. Box 907
New Providence, NJ 07974-0625         Morley, WA 6062 AUSTRALIA
email: hardy@panix.com

Alternatives to Monogamy              South Bay Intinet
P.O. Box 4172                         P.O. Box 70203
Wheaton, IL 60189-4172                Sunnyvale, CA 94086
(708) 510-7027                        (408) 730-9622

Pali Paths                            Glendower
P.O. Box 22586                        P.O. Box 520291
Honolulu, HI 96823                    Independance, MO 64052
(808) 239-6824                        email: DWEST@delphi.com
email: hwhite@uhunix.uhcc.Hawaii.Edu

Family Synergy                        Loving Alternatives
P.O. Box 2668                         P.O. Box 1322
Culver City, CA 90231                 Greenwood, IN 46142
                                      email: poly@holli.com

Network for a New Culture             ZEGG (Germany)
P.O. Box 14183                        39 Rosa Luxembourg Strasse 39
Scottsdale, AZ 85267-4183             14809 Belzig, Germany
(800) 624-8445                        49-33841-59510
email: nfnc@cvo.oneworld.com          email: zeggpost@zegg.dinoco.de

Human Awareness Institute             Tucson Reality Improvement Project
1720 South Amphlett Blvd., Suite 120  P.O. Box 1731
San Mateo, CA 94402                   Tucson, AZ 85702-1731
(800) 800-4117                        (520) 628-8720
email: info@hai.org                   email: chzbufe@azstarnet.com

Philadelphia Polyamory Support Group  South Florida Polyamorists
  c/o BiUnity                         c/o 7040 W. Palmetto Rd., 288
P.O. Box 41905                        Boco Ratan, FL 33433
Philadelphia, PA 19101                email: ceres@gate.net
voicemail: (215) 7BI-FONE
email: cappy@netaxs.com

Liberated Christians
P.O. Box 32835
Phoenix, AZ 85064-2835
Voicemail: (602) 955-0711
email: davephx@primenet.com


All of the above organizations are for people interested in poly relations
rather than aimed towards swinging. The following are for swingers and may
be more friendly towards "cruising".

North America Swing Club Assoc.       SSC Magazine
P.O. Box 7128                         P.O. Box 459
Buena Park, CA 90622                  San Dimas, CA 91773


Most of these groups will send you information if you submit a self-
addressed stamped envelope.


    d.) Notes

The former IRC and PEP have merged to become the Abundant Love Institute
and are jointly publishing a magazine called _Loving More_. The 
magazine does include personal ads, members recieve one free, 
additional ads are $10 per. They also maintain a lending library of many of 
the above titles, both fiction and non-fiction available to members, as 
well as a list of local support groups.

Poly ads may be placed on the net in alt.personals and alt.personals.poly,
they are inappropriate for alt.polyamory.

Thanks go especially to Howard Landman and the poly mailing list, and
to Dr. Deborah Anapol and the people at ALI for allowing judicious use
of their reviews and resources.
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